Comments on: Fear and Gender

By: wanderer08

wanderer08 — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 02:11:05 +0000

I’d not be sure of locking horns with the morons would be the solution.

Ultimately, as you said, “It’s is a sport for thrill and vengeance seekers. Its like a hunting sport where you hunt a tiger for thrill and machismo and not for its meat.”

Not to say that the women should live in fear, but a more gandhian approach might be more insulting to them..

Sending pink undies would only enrage them further.. sending rakhis to protect women from goons like that.. might be more humiliating to them..

But well, human nature is to instantly react in a confrontational manner.. thought may not always have a place in mass reactions..

By: snigdha

snigdha — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 06:33:23 +0000

@ves21:- Thanks for dropping by. I went to the site that you suggested and you know what, few days ago I was talking about the exact same thing that people wil soon start finding problems with co-educational schools and thats what the site also claims.
@Vijay:- Ya slow and steady change but there has to be a change.

By: Vijay

Vijay — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 03:35:34 +0000

Hey, liked the post and I want to see the painting now.

The problem with going to no-no places is that it’s a risk and most girls won’t want to take that risk just to make men accustomed to seeing them there. Yes, it’s the right approach to the problem, but it’s a slow approach (just as in so many other problems, the right solution is the slow one). It won’t change men’s attitudes immediately.

When I hear about male hypocrisy in this matter, I remember this guy whom I met at UTD (which is practically a Univ. of Telugu Desam). This guy was sleeping with an American woman and once day, just before he left for a strip joint, he told me in hindi, that ‘these girls’ (pointing to his girlfriend who was well within earshot) only want sex and that they have no culture. I couldn’t believe that this guy’s skull was so thick that he couldn’t detect the hypocrisy in what he had just said. Within a few weeks, he broke her heart.

Always optimistic about change. सत्यमेव जयते |

By: ves21

ves21 — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 15:28:11 +0000

saw this & thought about your comment

http://vinodksharma.blogspot.com/2009/02/forget-drinking-boys-and-girls-cant.html

By: ves21

ves21 — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 08:08:55 +0000

Nice painting.
India I guess is no different from Europe say 50 to 100 years ago (depending on country, still may be the same) where presence of women in public places is concerned. Rape is still : she shouldn’t have been wearing provocative clothes… And of course you are right there is a domination factor & fear of women taking the man’s place. And as that song in My Fair Lady went : you need someone to see the food is cooked.
And I would entirely agree with Vinayak’s comment : the only way is to be present everywhere. Times change and attitudes will change also. Unfortunately never fast enough. Fortunately India is not the worst insofar as presence of women in the workplace is concerned (not sure how many in managerial positions).
cheers
ves

By: Aneesha

Aneesha — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 07:14:45 +0000

Intense and wonderful work of art. Somehow reminded me a of a photograph titled Date Rape – a nude girl shown with red palm marks over her body – I think its the depiction of groping hands that brought out the memory, and maybe the intense use of the color red… Red is the color of blood, of the womb, of love, and also on the flipside of shame and aggression … and that is why it is the closest to a woman’s personality, and all her woes. Great insight into bringing out the religious, social, and ethical angle of the trysts and conquests surrounding the woman’s world.

By: Vinayak

Vinayak — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 09:35:37 +0000

I like what you say about the homeopathy treatment. Yes girls should be fearless and go to any place they want to. Love the Painting too.