My Monologoues

I don’t know what I am. I am a woman but should I label myself as a feminist or a non-feminist I don’t know. I am a human and am all for human rights, I love animals and I am all for animal rights. Going by that logic, since I am all for woman’s rights I should label myself as a feminist for the lack of a better term.

I love men. I love making love to my man, love taking care of him. Would love to have babies with him. I love to wax my legs too. Not because it’s a sign of sexual slavery to appease my man but a reason for me to feel good when I touch my smooth legs and wear those short skirts which make men ogle, women envy.

 I love to dress up not because I love those wolf whistles or eve teasing, I love to dress up and put red lipstick because the effects of it fuels my ego. I have a huge ego, I would not say sorry when its not my fault but I don’t mind giving my man a nice foot massage when he comes home tired, touching his dirty feet with my own manicured hands.

I love to cook. I would still cook for my man even when I am dog tired not because that’s a good wife’s duty but because I love to see my man enjoying my cooking and savoring the last small crumb of it.

I want to have babies not because God wants all women to have babies but because I want to feel a growing human inside my womb, kicking me and giving me sleepless nights.

I love sex not because as a dutiful wife I have to do it but because I feel horny too without any qualms. I see porn, I read erotica, I get bored I ogle at good asses be it man or a woman then I get bored and flip through Balaji serials. I see NEWS, I discuss politics, I clean, I vacuum, I paint, I mess up, I ask him out, I ask for sex, I earn, I spend, I binge too. I love pink and love make up, I don’t have any fancy for cars or lap tops but want all modern gadgets in my kitchen from an internet enabled refrigerator to a robot to condition my hair.

I don’t smoke to prove anything though I enjoy lazy lounges and cocktails. I love to sin with gourmet food, alcohol, self indulgence and some over doze of sleep.

I love my sarees and sindoor, the bindis, the jhoomkas, the payal and the bangles, I want a son and a daughter, don’t care if they become a pilot or a dancer. I want them happy in army uniforms or taking care of a home, for the choices that they have made for themselves with their independent minds.

I love the sea, the mountains that I trek and the roads that I have traveled yet am scared of water, heights and traffic.  I want my maternity leave, I want my raise.

I say “no”  when I want to say NO and I also say No when I want to say “yes”, I say Yes when I want to say NO. I do all the things that you do and he does, I do it because I am as human as you are. I don’t have muscles, I don’t have a moustache, I don’t have a penis and am not a sperm donor and I don’t want all that. I am happy with my breasts and the vanity box, a respectable job and my freedom of choice. I loved when I wanted to, I fought till I got what I wanted, I had the courage to walk out and the strength to fall in love again.  I dumped, I cheated, I had flings as much as you did.
I love gossips, I love to bitch, I love to play sport, and love it when he buys me gifts. I wish there was no rape, no violence, no discrimination.

I don’t know if I am a feminist but I love all the men in my life, my dad, my brother and my man for without them I would be so incomplete. And I say this with all the confidence that without the men I, a woman, would not be what I am.


With this post I tag, Sanjukta, Ansi, Kreeti, Seema, Amit, Vijay and Vinayak for their take on Feminism


23 thoughts on “My Monologoues

  1. Very well written! 🙂

    And damn, I still have to do your last tag!! Guess time to get back to some writing instead of fooling around that I’ve been doing, eh! 😉

    And Snigs, links to all my blogs are on that page you have linked to in your blogroll with my name – 🙂

  2. Hey! Bounced off of Seema’s post. I’d repeat what everyone else has already pronounced – awesome post. The no masquerade effect. Loved it. And finally, I’m happy that you’re not a feminist!

  3. Awesome post!
    “I am a human and am all for human rights, I love animals and I am all for animal rights. Going by that logic, since I am all for woman’s rights I should label myself as a feminist for the lack of a better term.”

    You can say you are a woman interested in woman’s rights
    Great post!! 🙂

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  5. @Richa:- Hey thanks for coming to my blog. I will surely cross post my blog posts in

    @Charaka:- Thanks man.
    My view on Lesbians or homosexuality is plain and simple. If you love someone, gender should not be the deciding factor. If I love another woman, I love the woman for the person she is. I think homosexuality is a very simple term which we have made complicated becuase the entire scheme of falling in love with a same sex person does not come as a natural act us. To me homosexuality is as normal as hetrosexuality.

    2nd question:- I would want a girl and a boy. I plan to have one child and adopt another so that I get best of both worlds :-). If I see that I can afford only 1 child, in that case I would probably go for a girl child for few silly reasons, 1st they look cute, you can dress them up and lastly seeing the love between a father and a daughter is a very enriching feeling and I would want to see my husband getting all the affections from our daughter. 🙂

    @Layman:- Thanks for tagging me 🙂

  6. Hi,

    I was reading ur blog posts and found some of them to be very good.. u write well.. Why don’t you popularize it more.. ur posts on ur blog ‘Dr. Motion’s Diary’ took my particular attention as some of them are interesting topics of mine too;

    BTW I help out some ex-IIMA guys who with another batch mate run where you can post links to your most loved blog-posts. Rambhai was the chaiwala at IIMA and it is a site where users can themselves share links to blog posts etc and other can find and vote on them. The best make it to the homepage!

    This way you can reach out to rambhai readers some of whom could become your ardent fans.. who knows.. 🙂


  7. Hi Snigdha,

    I like what I’ve read. You’ve got a nice thing going.

    I grew up calling myself a feminist. What else can you call anyone who loves everything (well… almost everything) about women. Almost all women!!! 😀

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